Golden Age Courtship Rites - Revision history

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Abduction and Lock In

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	The day before the wedding, the groomsmen would 'abduct' the groom. Sometimes this was more planned than others, but it was their task to capture him, beat him, bind him, then take him to a secured location where he would be held overnight. The job of the groomsmen was to ensure that the groom did not escape before his wedding. While the beatings were typically superficial, it was expected that the groomsmen would deliver it "as a warning". Any man who ran out on his wedding could expect a much less superficial thrashing. During this time, the groom was also expected to talk about his marital oaths with his groomsmen, then ask them to beat him if he broke them. Good groomsmen would swear to do so.		The day before the wedding, the groomsmen would 'abduct' the groom. Sometimes this was more planned than others, but it was their task to capture him, beat him, bind him, then take him to a secured location where he would be held overnight. The job of the groomsmen was to ensure that the groom did not escape before his wedding. While the beatings were typically superficial, it was expected that the groomsmen would deliver it "as a warning". Any man who ran out on his wedding could expect a much less superficial thrashing. During this time, the groom was also expected to talk about his marital oaths with his groomsmen, then ask them to beat him if he broke them. Good groomsmen would swear to do so.

	In fact, an interesting legal precedent was later established. As the society in Arindell and the surrounding regions became more civilized, various court cases established a few things. Firstly, a man's groomsmen were allowed to beat him soundly if they discovered he had been unfaithful to is wife(with the only limit being that the beatings could not 'cause grievous or permanent bodily harm"); and second, that they were in fact legally required to do so. On more than one occasion in the fourth and fifth centuries of the Golden Age, court orders were issued forcing groomsmen to "deliver a sound thrashing" with various mandates. The bride or bride's family was entitled to monetary recompense if the beating did not occur.		In fact, an interesting legal precedent was later established. As the society in Arindell and the surrounding regions became more civilized, various court cases established a few things. Firstly, a man's groomsmen were allowed to beat him soundly if they discovered he had been unfaithful to is wife (with the only limit being that the beatings could not 'cause grievous or permanent bodily harm"); and second, that they were in fact legally required to do so. On more than one occasion in the fourth and fifth centuries of the Golden Age, court orders were issued forcing groomsmen to "deliver a sound thrashing" with various mandates. The bride or bride's family was entitled to monetary recompense if the beating did not occur.

	As for the extend of the pre-wedding beating, the groom was generally expected to present with some form of physical injury, though this requirement abated some as time passed. Informally, it was generally assumed the groom would later be a groomsmen for his friends, and have the chance to return the favor in kind.		As for the extend of the pre-wedding beating, the groom was generally expected to present with some form of physical injury, though this requirement abated some as time passed. Informally, it was generally assumed the groom would later be a groomsmen for his friends, and have the chance to return the favor in kind.

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Other Aspects

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	Most of the tasks were to be completed personally, though athletic competitions were common. Since there can only be so many winners in any competition, the feat usually just involved competing. Along with purely physical endeavors such as races and swimming, demonstrations of mental discipline were also important, such as reciting classic poetry or reading certain books. In the later stages of courtship, men might recite lengthy oaths of love and fidelity.		Most of the tasks were to be completed personally, though athletic competitions were common. Since there can only be so many winners in any competition, the feat usually just involved competing. Along with purely physical endeavors such as races and swimming, demonstrations of mental discipline were also important, such as reciting classic poetry or reading certain books. In the later stages of courtship, men might recite lengthy oaths of love and fidelity.

			===Pre-Fru-Arannco===
			The exact nature of this rite has not been well-preserved but if the young lady was skilled in [[Arannco]] she may preform a dance for her intended. The first time this occurred was called the 'Pre-Fru-Arannco' and would be seen as a major event in the courtship. Whether it happened before or after the proposal remains a matter of some debate, with most historians agreeing it took place after for the first 150 years or so and before during the rest of the [[Classical Golden Age]].

	====The Harl====		====The Harl====

CourseDirector: /* The Harl */

2020-12-11T22:53:54Z

The Harl

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	====The Harl====		====The Harl====
	~~The Harl~~ was ~~an optional temptation offered up by~~ the ~~woman~~. ~~A great deal~~ of ~~emphasis~~ was ~~placed on the~~ virtue of ~~resisting temptation~~, so the ~~young~~ woman be courted ~~could offer herself in some sexual fashion and ask~~ her ~~suitor~~ to resist. Exactly ~~what level this went to varied tremendously over the years~~ and ~~between couples~~, but ~~successful~~ completion of ~~the~~ Harl was ~~usually announced~~.		In the early Golden Age, being chaste and demonstrating self control were considered the heights of masculinity. [[Eieber]] himself was known for being life-long celibate, though mainly do to his dedication to the cause. While obviously complete celibacy was out of the question due to the need to propagate the species, being chaste was considered an ideal virtue.

			Out of this was born The Harl, a sort of ritual element usually carried out a few days before the actual wedding. Though not included in all courtships, it was especially popular around [[Emily]]'s era. The woman being courted would sexually tempt her fiancé, who was then expected to resist. Exactly how much temptation and for how long was generally a private matter, but successfully completion of The Harl was seen as a blessing for the sanctity of the union.

	===Color Codes===		===Color Codes===

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2020-12-05T19:02:28Z

Other Aspects

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	Most of the tasks were to be completed personally, though athletic competitions were common. Since there can only be so many winners in any competition, the feat usually just involved competing. Along with purely physical endeavors such as races and swimming, demonstrations of mental discipline were also important, such as reciting classic poetry or reading certain books. In the later stages of courtship, men might recite lengthy oaths of love and fidelity.		Most of the tasks were to be completed personally, though athletic competitions were common. Since there can only be so many winners in any competition, the feat usually just involved competing. Along with purely physical endeavors such as races and swimming, demonstrations of mental discipline were also important, such as reciting classic poetry or reading certain books. In the later stages of courtship, men might recite lengthy oaths of love and fidelity.

			====The Harl====
			The Harl was an optional temptation offered up by the woman. A great deal of emphasis was placed on the virtue of resisting temptation, so the young woman be courted could offer herself in some sexual fashion and ask her suitor to resist. Exactly what level this went to varied tremendously over the years and between couples, but successful completion of the Harl was usually announced.

	===Color Codes===		===Color Codes===

CourseDirector at 23:29, 25 April 2020

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	==Wedding Rituals==		==Wedding Rituals==
	Golden Age weddings were an interesting and ever-changing affair. As with most aspects of societal life, these centered heavily around the Slayer Dragons.		Golden Age weddings were an interesting and ever-changing affair. As with most aspects of societal life, these centered heavily around the Slayer Dragons.

			===Pre-Wedding Customs===
			Golden Age weddings typically lasted two days, with a handful of special rituals carried out the day before and the public ceremony on the morning after. Later in the era, couples would then leave on honeymoon.

			In the days and weeks leading up to the wedding, the bride and groom would separately gather their 'lieutenants' and 'seconds'. These later become known as best man/maid of honor, and the bridesmaids and groomsmen. These individuals were tasked with ensuring the wedding happened, both in a practical way(ehlping to plan and execute it) and in a ceremonial way(completing various rituals intended to make the marriage last).

			====Abduction and Lock In====
			The day before the wedding, the groomsmen would 'abduct' the groom. Sometimes this was more planned than others, but it was their task to capture him, beat him, bind him, then take him to a secured location where he would be held overnight. The job of the groomsmen was to ensure that the groom did not escape before his wedding. While the beatings were typically superficial, it was expected that the groomsmen would deliver it "as a warning". Any man who ran out on his wedding could expect a much less superficial thrashing. During this time, the groom was also expected to talk about his marital oaths with his groomsmen, then ask them to beat him if he broke them. Good groomsmen would swear to do so.

			In fact, an interesting legal precedent was later established. As the society in Arindell and the surrounding regions became more civilized, various court cases established a few things. Firstly, a man's groomsmen were allowed to beat him soundly if they discovered he had been unfaithful to is wife(with the only limit being that the beatings could not 'cause grievous or permanent bodily harm"); and second, that they were in fact legally required to do so. On more than one occasion in the fourth and fifth centuries of the Golden Age, court orders were issued forcing groomsmen to "deliver a sound thrashing" with various mandates. The bride or bride's family was entitled to monetary recompense if the beating did not occur.

			As for the extend of the pre-wedding beating, the groom was generally expected to present with some form of physical injury, though this requirement abated some as time passed. Informally, it was generally assumed the groom would later be a groomsmen for his friends, and have the chance to return the favor in kind.

			The lock-in aspect was also an important element. It was vital to the ritual that a lock of some kind bar them in, with the best man holding the key. The modern practice of the 'bachelor party' did not come about until many centuries after the lock-ins had ended, and is thus thought to be unrelated.

			====Bathing====
			The bridesmaids, meanwhile, were expected to take on the role of handmaidens for the bride-to-be. On the day before the wedding, they were to gather any materials and complete all the tasks needed to prepare the bride. In the evening, they would spend several hours bathing her and pouring scented oils over her. Her freshly-cleaned body was then laid on a bed of flower petals (which would be used in the procession the next day) while the bridesmaids sat up beside her all night and watched her sleep. If the bride was nervous or slept fitfully, the bridesmaids would be on hand to calm her. In the early morning before the ceremony, the bridesmaids would then help the bride dress and prepare.

			The bridesmaids were primarily tasked with doing every possible thing to help the bride prepare, as well as keeping her calm and ensuring she was rested. This meant it was also tradition for the bridesmaids to do her hair and later makeup. Nearly every young woman studied, to some degree, how to dress hair. As time passed, however, and professional stylists became common, this aspect of the ritual dropped away. It was especially prevalent during the Stador era, and was notable among the upper-class: a woman of means who could afford an actual lady's maid would often make her a part of the wedding party.

	===Marital Swords===		===Marital Swords===
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	During the first century, "proof of consummation" in the form of bloody sheets was sometimes required among upper-class families. However, given the Golden Age's attitude towards sex, this was generally regarded as poor taste. [[Astrid Stador]] openly condemned the practice, calling it "vulgar" and "a violation of the bride's privacy". The practice was formally outlawed by the church at the beginning of the third century, with the [[Doseu]] decrying it. However, since since the act of consummation was a legal requirement for the marriage to be recognized, the 'proof' was replaced by oaths(later signed statements) from the wedding party. Since any description was still seen as vulgar, the party would essentially swear that they had escorted the couple to a private location, then stood guard over that location for some hours without the new couple having emerged. So long as these statements existed, it was generally regarded that the marriage had been consummated, regardless of actual fact.		During the first century, "proof of consummation" in the form of bloody sheets was sometimes required among upper-class families. However, given the Golden Age's attitude towards sex, this was generally regarded as poor taste. [[Astrid Stador]] openly condemned the practice, calling it "vulgar" and "a violation of the bride's privacy". The practice was formally outlawed by the church at the beginning of the third century, with the [[Doseu]] decrying it. However, since since the act of consummation was a legal requirement for the marriage to be recognized, the 'proof' was replaced by oaths(later signed statements) from the wedding party. Since any description was still seen as vulgar, the party would essentially swear that they had escorted the couple to a private location, then stood guard over that location for some hours without the new couple having emerged. So long as these statements existed, it was generally regarded that the marriage had been consummated, regardless of actual fact.

	==Post-Wedding Customs==		===Post-Wedding Customs===
	Regardless of station, the couple was expected to have some time alone after the ceremony. This practice eventually evolved into the modern "honeymoon".		Regardless of station, the couple was expected to have some time alone after the ceremony. This practice eventually evolved into the modern "honeymoon".

	===Marital Shrines===		====Marital Shrines====
	The wealthiest couples of society's elite would build extravagant shrines in their marital homes, of the wedding clothes and ceremonial weapons of the party, which of course had to be regularly cleaned and maintained. When the couple grew older, pieces of their shrines would often be lent to the weddings of their children. By the end of the Age, the shrine might contain the full genealogy of the family, with each item holding a special significance for the dozens of weddings it had graced. Marital shrines were one custom only ever practiced by the extremely wealthy, as anyone of lower means would not typically have a room to dedicate to memorializing their wedding day; but most ceremonial accoutrements were necessarily handed down in families, at all levels.		The wealthiest couples of society's elite would build extravagant shrines in their marital homes, of the wedding clothes and ceremonial weapons of the party, which of course had to be regularly cleaned and maintained. When the couple grew older, pieces of their shrines would often be lent to the weddings of their children. By the end of the Age, the shrine might contain the full genealogy of the family, with each item holding a special significance for the dozens of weddings it had graced. Marital shrines were one custom only ever practiced by the extremely wealthy, as anyone of lower means would not typically have a room to dedicate to memorializing their wedding day; but most ceremonial accoutrements were necessarily handed down in families, at all levels.

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 ===Marital Shrines===
 The wealthiest couples of society's elite would build extravagant shrines in their marital homes, of the wedding clothes and ceremonial weapons of the party, which of course had to be regularly cleaned and maintained. When the couple grew older, pieces of their shrines would often be lent to the weddings of their children. By the end of the Age, the shrine might contain the full genealogy of the family, with each item holding a special significance for the dozens of weddings it had graced. Marital shrines were one custom only ever practiced by the extremely wealthy, as anyone of lower means would not typically have a room to dedicate to memorializing their wedding day; but most ceremonial accoutrements were necessarily handed down in families, at all levels.
 ==Divorce and Remarriage==

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Wedding Rituals

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	During the first century, "proof of consummation" in the form of bloody sheets was sometimes required among upper-class families. However, given the Golden Age's attitude towards sex, this was generally regarded as poor taste. [[Astrid Stador]] openly condemned the practice, calling it "vulgar" and "a violation of the bride's privacy". The practice was formally outlawed by the church at the beginning of the third century, with the [[Doseu]] decrying it. However, since since the act of consummation was a legal requirement for the marriage to be recognized, the 'proof' was replaced by oaths(later signed statements) from the wedding party. Since any description was still seen as vulgar, the party would essentially swear that they had escorted the couple to a private location, then stood guard over that location for some hours without the new couple having emerged. So long as these statements existed, it was generally regarded that the marriage had been consummated, regardless of actual fact.		During the first century, "proof of consummation" in the form of bloody sheets was sometimes required among upper-class families. However, given the Golden Age's attitude towards sex, this was generally regarded as poor taste. [[Astrid Stador]] openly condemned the practice, calling it "vulgar" and "a violation of the bride's privacy". The practice was formally outlawed by the church at the beginning of the third century, with the [[Doseu]] decrying it. However, since since the act of consummation was a legal requirement for the marriage to be recognized, the 'proof' was replaced by oaths(later signed statements) from the wedding party. Since any description was still seen as vulgar, the party would essentially swear that they had escorted the couple to a private location, then stood guard over that location for some hours without the new couple having emerged. So long as these statements existed, it was generally regarded that the marriage had been consummated, regardless of actual fact.

			==Post-Wedding Customs==
			Regardless of station, the couple was expected to have some time alone after the ceremony. This practice eventually evolved into the modern "honeymoon".

			===Marital Shrines===
			The wealthiest couples of society's elite would build extravagant shrines in their marital homes, of the wedding clothes and ceremonial weapons of the party, which of course had to be regularly cleaned and maintained. When the couple grew older, pieces of their shrines would often be lent to the weddings of their children. By the end of the Age, the shrine might contain the full genealogy of the family, with each item holding a special significance for the dozens of weddings it had graced. Marital shrines were one custom only ever practiced by the extremely wealthy, as anyone of lower means would not typically have a room to dedicate to memorializing their wedding day; but most ceremonial accoutrements were necessarily handed down in families, at all levels.

	==Pre-Wedding Customs==		==Pre-Wedding Customs==

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